As athlete’s, runners, joggers, jumpers, skippers, whatever, there are millions of ‘others’ that exist in the world. FB, Twitter, Tumblr, Runkeeper, GPS, Dailymile, and Garmin bring us all together in wonderful and horrible ways.
When I started running (in high school) there was none of that. Does that age me? I’m 31 so not to beat around the bush about it, there it is. I would run in the morning with pals, and in class on track, in the field, and on field trips on 8-10k’s. Say I finished an 8K in 20 minutes, I felt great! and yet no one knew, nor did I know about how fast ten thousand other high school kids finished their 8ks. My point being, my body let me know how to feel, good, bad, decent? My feelings led me and it worked!
When I came back to running after University, all this stuff started to exist and I fell into the social media pit. My times were slower as I had been off for years but suddenly, I had insight into other people’s times.
they were faster.
Not only that, they looked less ‘fit’ then me, they hadn’t been running long (how would I even presume to know that?) and I generally felt gypped. Why was I so slow and crappy?
the answer: I wasn’t!! I was running someone else’s race and not following the cardinal rule of life as far as I’m concerned:
'To Compare is to Despair'
I despaired for a long time, probably longer than I would like to admit. It’s so easy to see someone else’s life and say ‘why not me?’ but I ask ‘Why Should it be’?
Should, Should, Should. What is ‘Should’?
the only thing you ‘Should’ be is You.
Time is subjective, goals are subjective, and so is happiness. Choose to be happy with your runs when you are putting in max effort and you will improve, mentally and physically.
I’ve run 7 marathons and about an equal amount of half’s, and tons of 5 and 10k’s, etc and just this year did I have a Marathon that was my own. No comparing, no despairing. I didn’t even PR!!!
I still feel greatness and gratitude towards it because my mental set was strong and I was happy to be me.
Be happy to be you, train hard, and live your life!
here I am finishing, feeling great :)